Step Up

Getting to Me

People are getting to me, particularly guys.  I don’t want it to be the case and I try to put those negative feelings at bay, but I cannot help it.  There are certain individuals who do the most infuriating things or act in a certain way that bothers me, which makes me feel some type of way.

Like I’ve said before, I cannot always control my feelings and I cannot help how I feel about people, especially as I watch the way some of them behave.  I’m tired of the attitudes that I’m forced to deal with or weird antics in friendships, so I never actually know where I stand.  I’m sick of all the lies and false promises, and please do not get me started on the countless clones and fakes walking around.

Yet what gets to me the most is guys, which seems to be a common occurrence in my life, and probably the lives of so many other females.  Too many guys behave in the most ridiculous, annoying and confusing ways, making me constantly wonder if I will ever find someone in this lifetime.

The majority of males I come across are incredibly selfish — everything needs to be on their terms, on their time and excuse me if anyone brings up their faults or mistakes, because every word should be what they want to hear.  I’m tired of guys saying girls and relationships are drama, simply because they cannot handle the truth or a little criticism.  Half of the time, it is them who starts the drama.

There are also too many guys who have a problem with holding a conversation — I’m not even going to stretch to meaningful conversation, because they don’t possess the ability to get to that level.  I want to be able to talk to someone and have the conversation flow, without having to tell them what I’ve been doing over and over again or deal with monosyllabic responses.

However, guys have no problem finding something to say when it comes to the subject of relationships or sex.  I don’t understand why guys think it is okay to ask if a female is a virgin, particularly during the second conversation in their lifetime, and then require a full explanation to go with the answer.  I cannot comprehend why they need to be so intrusive or why sex is a major factor on the forefront of their minds.  It makes me seriously question the motives of the male in question.

Then there are the men who don’t want to get into their feelings and refuse to open up to you, or the men who are way up in their feelings and get emotional about everything.  There are the guys who are overly forceful or forward, and the guys who are too passive and afraid to make their move.  And there are the guys who are manipulative, dishonest, confused about what they want or straight up disrespectful.

To be fair, there’s probably a lot more I could say, but I don’t want to keep on bashing guys, because there are actually some good ones out there and us females aren’t perfect either — we have plenty of flaws and issues.  However, it is guys that have been getting to me more than anything recently and I’ve wanted to express this for a little while.

All I want is for a man to step up and prove me wrong, because I am tired of giving guys the benefit of the doubt and finding out they are the same as everyone else.  I’m tired of giving guys a chance and having them throw it back in my face.  I want to be able to put my trust in someone and I want to be able to feel deeply for someone again, but I feel that it is a long time coming and almost out of reach.

My Top 5 Films

Last week ended with me revealing my Top 5 Foods (you know that chips would be at number one), but now it’s time to go back to entertainment and fill you in on my Top 5 films.  Here it goes.

 

5. Step Up

Step Up is definitely my favourite dance film and by far the best of the films in the Step Up series.  I love the soundtrack, I love the storylines and of course, I love the dance scenes.  The final dance is one of my all-time favourite dance routines in a film and I love when the two lead characters dance together to a beautiful song in front of a beautiful sunset — pure film gold.

4. She’s The Man

She’s The Man is a film that never gets old and never fails to make me laugh.  Like Step Up, this is another film starring Channing Tatum, who is always lovely to look at, but that’s not why I love the film so much.  The story is ridiculous but hilarious, the characters are great and there are so many great comic moments.  I also love the film work of Amanda Bynes and this was her at her best.She's The Man

3. Grease

I love a good musical and Grease is my favourite.  The songs are the ultimate sing-a-long tunes, the characters are brilliant, the soundtrack is great and the costumes are AMAZING — I swear, I wish I had all of Marty’s wardrobe.  My favourite scene is definitely that crazy school dance, but my favourite songs are Summer Nights and Greased Lightning, which also has the best dance routine.

2. Set It Off

I fell in love with Set It Off the first time I watched it.  I like a good action film, and a good crime action is even better.  And four women in the leading roles just made it a whole lot better, as they fought back at the system that had screwed them over.  However, it was the emotion of this film that made me love it so much, as it tugged hard at my heartstrings.  Queen Latifah’s final scene always brings tears to my eyes.Set It Off

1. The Little Mermaid

No other film could be number one but Disney’s The Little Mermaid.  This is my favourite film in the world and it always has been.  I’m a sucker for a good fairytale and a happy ending (which is also beautiful and emotional), and I’m a sucker for great music.  The Little Mermaid has some of the best songs and one of the best musical scores of any film I’ve watched  — I love them all so much, but Part of Your World is my ultimate favourite.  And how can you not love the name Ariel?

I’ve got to give a special mention to the funny and very quotable, Mean Girls, which I also loved the first time that I watched it and was previously one of my favourite films.  What are your favourite films?

A Frightening Increase

It is a little frightening to see the rate at which knife crime is increasing.  It is ridiculous to hear about an individual being stabbed at least once a week, and what makes it worse is that most of these stabbings are in my home of South London.

I think that stabbings are unnecessary and I don’t understand why they are becoming such a frequent occurrence.  Life is precious and I can’t fathom why people have such a lack of respect for it, especially the young people.  When you hear about stabbings, it is usually the young people who are carrying out and on the receiving end of the stabbings.

It is like they see using a knife as an easy way to get what they want or a necessary way to gain “respect”.  They do not think about the consequences and in the blink of an eye, that blade could cost an individual their life.

I understand that there are times when an individual can find themself in a sticky situation, but using a knife is never the answer.  All it does is cause further pain and leads to a reign of terror on the streets.

I hate that I am continuously seeing an increase in knife crime and I am seriously wondering if it is too late to stop it.  We need to step up and do something, which is an issue that I have addressed in my article for The Croydon Citizen.