Respect

Blessings on Blessings

God is truly blessing me.

I could have written those five words alone and it would have said enough, because it simply states how God is working in my life.  After praying and asking Him for a new job a couple of weeks ago, my God sent the ideal position just days later.  After spending a whole lot of time gaining motivation from Him, last week I successfully held my first youth forum.  Despite worrying at times, I remembered to have faith and put everything in God’s hands, which was the best thing to do, because He had my back without fail.

However, there was an even bigger turning point in our relationship, when I spent a lengthy time on my knees speaking to Him about countless aspects of my life and my need of not only help, but guidance from Him.  God gave me some great answers and I came out of that prayer session rejuvenated, ready to stop living in fear and take on the world, because I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.

I knew that it was time for me to show more love and respect for myself, which meant not letting people treat me any way they pleased or staying silent when something in my relationships is bothering me or causing me pain.  I knew that it was time to do what needs to be done and say what needs to be said, rather than hesitating and leaving everything until tomorrow.  It was time for me to get really positive and not let others validate my life anymore.  I truly realised that it is only what God thinks that matters.

One of the main things for me to do was speak to one of the friends who had inadvertently been causing me pain and cut ties with him for a while, because there is only so much my heart can take.  After talking to God about how to handle the situation, He made me realise that calling my friend was the best thing to do, rather than engaging in yet another WhatsApp conversation.

It took a lot of courage to override my fear, but I prayed again and made the phone call.  Let’s just say that the conversation with my friend went even better than I could have imagined.  He responded in a way that I would want anyone I have a problem with to respond, and we were able to have a great conversation after a long time of not properly speaking.  My friend is a beautiful person, but I know that God had a real hand in that.

My God is pouring blessings on blessings onto my life and I’m extremely grateful.  As I’ve said before, I’m not even going to try and express my thanks, because no words would be enough.  I just love Him so, so much.

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Loss of Respect

Over the past few weeks, I have been losing more and more respect for celebrities or famous, public figures – whatever they choose to call themselves.  For some reason, because they earn bagfuls of money and are adored by countless fans, they think that it is okay to behave any way they like and people should accept it.

I can’t believe how Rihanna clearly admitted that the reason she came to this year’s BET Awards was to promote her new video, the controversial Bitch Better Have My Money.  She had no shame and behaved as if she was too good to be there, following a speech by Smokey Robinson about how being famous does not give you license to act like you’re better than anyone else.

Watching the way Deandre Jordan handled things with the Dallas Mavericks disgusted me, as a big man behaved like a disrespectful, immature child.  Having money did not seem to make Deandre behave anymore grown up than anyone else.

There are a number of other celebrities that I have lost respect for over the weeks that aren’t coming to mind right now, but I do know that I have been far from impressed by their behaviour.  And please do not get me started on the security who watch over these celebrities; their behaviour can be worse and it is totally unnecessary.  The people love the person you’re protecting, not you, so there’s no need for the “power” to go to your head.

Don’t get me wrong, there are certain famous individuals that I love (basketball players in particular) and some that I actually do respect, but there is no way that I idolise any of them.  No matter how much money they have or how many places in the world they get to see, they are humans just like you and me.  Just as quickly as they got famous, they could lose it all like that, and there is nothing more tragic than watching a celebrity trying to cling to fame.

People are people and I wish that more individuals would understand that.  It is not their money, title or the number of people following them that should gain your respect.  It should be the person, their character and what they really do that makes you respect them.  No one person is better than anyone else.

A Step Forward

Last week, I was extremely happy to read about Becky Hammon getting the job of full-time Assistant Coach for the San Antonio Spurs.  In fact, I was a little emotional, not because I am a Spurs fan or huge Becky Hammon fan, but because of the big step forward that this is in the world of sports.

This is a truly amazing thing for the basketball world and ultimately the sports world as a whole, because it shows that women are getting more respect – more to the point, they are finally getting the respect that they have long deserved.  I hate when people diss women’s basketball and call it boring, even when some have not even watched them play.  And I can’t stand when people refer to women as the weaker sex.

You know that I love watching women’s basketball and I greatly admire the skills that they possess when playing the game – it’s not all about dunking and show-boating for them.  There are some truly great players in the women’s game and many of them display a stellar basketball IQ, which is the main reason that Becky Hammon has been recruited by the Spurs head office.  There is no way that they would hire someone who does not understand the game or know what they’re talking about, especially on a team as effective as the San Antonio Spurs.

Gregg Popovich is the best coach in the NBA by far and he definitely knows his stuff, so there is no way that he would have someone assisting him who is not up to the job.  This is also a plus for Becky, as she will be learning from the best and this will probably do wonders for her coaching career in the future.  She may even end up being the first female Head Coach in the NBA, but I think that we have a long way to go until that happens.

The Spurs are the perfect fit for Becky to grow and start her coaching career, as she will not only be working under the best, but she will also be working with a humble organisation and coaching a team of humble, respectful players.  I also love that they broke the news by simply referring to her as their assistant coach, rather than using the word female and instead focusing on her gender – it was a very classy move on the Spurs part.

I had great respect and admiration for the San Antonio Spurs and Gregg Popovich before, but after last week, my respect and admiration for them has grown even more.  This is a great move and I salute the NBA for the being the first of the major sports organisations to make this happen.  Congratulations to Becky Hammon and I hope that this will continue to open doors for women in sports, because they deserve a greater chance and so much more respect.