Shallow Heart

I just read a beautiful Thought for the Day about following your heart and it just made me reconsider how I look at guys sometimes.

Although I’m not a shallow individual, there are times when I can be a little shallow in my attraction to guys, focusing on their looks rather than how they treat me.  This post reminded me to follow my heart when looking for love, rather than following with my eyes, because a lovely face doesn’t necessarily mean a lovely personality.

When it comes down to me genuinely having feelings for someone, personality is the most important thing.  However, I haven’t really been living by that mantra recently, instead developing shallow feelings for guys who do not have great personalities or finding myself attracted to guys based solely on their looks.

Yes, I do need to be at least physically attracted to someone for me to date them, but it is their character, personality and heart that will seal the deal for me.

Nevertheless, I need to really start following my heart and listen to what it’s telling me, so that I know when my feelings are genuine.  Like I said, I can be a little shallow sometimes.

Quiet, Dry Humour and a Great Personality

A couple of weeks ago, I finally met up with my Textiles girlies after about of a year of not seeing them.  As I mentioned before, my two years spent studying A-level Textiles was one of the best periods in my life and the beautiful ladies that were in my class will have a special place in my heart forever.

Another one of those ladies is a fellow shorty like me, which you know makes me feel good.  Nevertheless, she seems to make up for her small stature with amazingly long hair.  The length it reached during sixth form amazed me and I actually think that her hair was about half the length of her.

Just like all of my Textiles friends, she makes me laugh, but she humours me in a different way.  She has some of the driest wit you will ever come across, which is great, because by simply looking at her, you would never expect her to be so funny.

During our classes, she would deliver classic lines in a dead pan voice, which added to the moment.  I don’t think any of us will forget the moment when she threw down a friend’s sketchbook that she had found and said, “It’s yours”, with no expression, because one of us asked if the sketchbook she’d found was actually hers.

She is a quiet person of few words, but she has a great personality and I know that she really does have a lot to say.  She also created some of the most amazing work in Textiles and I could see that she has a gift, which would have taken her far if she decided to study a subject in the field of fashion, but she is excelling in her current career.

I am so proud of her and I know that she will continue to do amazingly well in whatever she pursues in life.  As I told her last time I saw her, she’s got a very level head on her shoulders, which will serve her in good stead.  Did I also mention that I gave her a great nickname which suits her to the tee?  I just love her so much.

A Shining, Bright Personality

Today I’m gonna write about another one of those beautiful people who was thrown into my life this summer, all the way from the United States.  This is one particular individual who I have definitely stayed connected with, but that was not going to be hard, because of how warm, funny and approachable he is.

I spoke to him relatively early in the day that I met him, and he was one of the people who greatly encouraged me to return the next day to spend more time with them.  Considering that I was initially reluctant to return the next day, I am really glad that I did, because spending time with him and the others was great.  In the end, one and a half days was just now enough time for us to spend together.

Now I mentioned earlier that this guy is funny, but he actually is hilarious.  He always found some way to make me laugh and his bright personality never fails to make me smile.  I love people who bring light to my life and he happens to be one of them.  I remember him running around, happily speaking to anyone in his path.  I will also never forget when he said to me, “Can I ask you a question?  Who are you?”, during one of my little dancing outbursts – I thought it was so funny.

After learning that I call myself ‘Shanqy’, I also gave him the honour of calling me ‘Shanq’, which as you know, is quite an exclusive nickname.  Of course, this makes him special and ‘Shanq’ is what he always refers to me as now.  I just love the way he says it with such enthusiasm.

It was fun, as we ran down the steps to a stunning riverside location, which he was so intrigued to see.  It actually turned out to be even more stunning once we got down there, which created a special moment that someone managed to capture on camera.  It was also a classic moment when I went over to hug him for support, after being dragged across the road by a random man trying to help us get to our next location.

Speaking to him is always a joy and observing him on his spiritual walk is a beautiful thing – I know that he is going to make a great difference in so many people’s lives.  The light that he shines is amazing and feel so blessed to have had the opportunity to meet him.  I have faith that we will get to spend more time together in the future, because I really do love him a lot.