Deeper Than the Skin

I hate that people can be judged or treated differently because of the colour of their skin.  However, it goes so much deeper than the colour of their skin, right down to the shade of their skin.

I recently read comments that individuals were making, in response to a piece written about a speech made by Lupita Nyong’o.  Nyong’o mentioned that she had struggled in the past with the colour of her skin and she prayed to God everyday asking to wake up lighter.  However, after seeing how the world embraced the supermodel Alek Wek, she eventually became more comfortable in her own skin and began to accept her darker colour.

It really saddens me when I hear about individuals not being comfortable in their own skin and feeling so bad about themselves that they want to drastically change their appearance.  No one should feel that they are not beautiful because of the colour of their skin, or the texture of their hair, or the features that make up their face, or how much they weigh.  Beauty is so much more than that.

I can’t stand when people say that a woman would be beautiful if she wasn’t so skinny or if she wasn’t so fat.  I get confused, because I didn’t realise that how much someone weighed affected the beauty of their face.  And I don’t like when guys automatically think that a female is more attractive just because she has lighter skin.  Not every single light-skinned girl is really pretty and not every single dark-skinned girl is unattractive.

I don’t know why our society is so obsessed with the shade of a person’s skin and why that is a reason to make them feel any less than they are.  The media does not help, as they continue to twist the ideals of beauty that so many individuals desperately try to emulate.  However, the beauty ideals these individuals aspire to are usually unrealistic, as many of the images they see are airbrushed beyond belief.

We need to stop putting such a heavy emphasis on appearance and creating this set idea of what beauty is – beauty is not one-dimensional.  I do not think anyone in this world is ugly and there are so many beautiful women out there, but we don’t always take the time to really look at them.

Nyong’o and Janelle Monae are beautiful women who have the most amazing skin.  Cate Blanchett, Tilda Swinton and Freja Beha Erichsen are unique beauties.  Queen Latifah and Kate Winslet have strong, beautiful faces.  Adele is a classic beauty.  Jerry Hall, Marie Helvin, Carmen Dell’Orefice and Chaka Khan fly the flag for a more mature beauty.  And there are so many more beautiful women that I could name, but I don’t have the time and I think that I you’d get bored quickly.

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but it should not be their skin or hair or weight that makes them any more or less beautiful.  We all have our personal preferences, but we should not force them onto others so that they feel uncomfortable in the skin they’re in.

We were all made differently and we should be proud of that.  It would be boring if we all looked the same, so we should embrace what makes us different.  After all, true beauty is more than what’s on the surface; it’s about what’s inside.



  1. Complete agree with your thoughts. Wanted to write a piece about the same (might write later when my thoughts are more collected about it), but what you said is spot on. The entire idea of beauty has become so one dimensional and it just irks me to think that this is still an issue in this day and age.

    1. Thank you for your comment and it’s always nice for me to know that someone has the same thoughts of me. As individuals, we all need to pull together so that this issue changes.

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